Moving, but not on.

When is an appropriate time to move on from the past and forget the good and bad times shared with someone once so close? How are we to be sure that they haven’t already? Perhaps it is when they start doing things that they claimed to never do, or when their lunch is spent with someone they’d never told you about, even though it has only been such a short space of time it leads us to question their reasons behind moving on.

Heartache is by far the most crippling feeling; it hurts not only mentally but physically too. It is actual agony to do the simplest of tasks and all because they swooped in and started nibbling on our goods only to leave a large whole in us while they move on to another person and only to do the same to them.

Surely their actions are immoral; there should be some sort of ethical guideline within relationships that tells you what’s ok and what’s not.

If Zimbardo can dress people as guards and have them treat pseudo prisoners as they pleased then the ethics committee will come running shouting “STOP IT! IT’S OVER! YOU BROKE THE RULES!” but in the so called world of romance there are no referees to judge when the hit goes below the belt, which is a shame really because so many couples or individuals I should say need coaching when it comes to understanding their partner’s feelings and what they should do to help them, such as how to comfort in a particular situation and when it’s a good time to be selfish.

What I’m getting at here is do we fully understand their motives before we let them in? If they can move on as quickly as Glenn Quagmire then all that changes is we want to decapitate them rather than kiss them. If they do move on jealousy kicks in and all we want is to show them that we can get someone just as good as them if not better and shove it in their faces.

This could possibly be where the bad-boy love comes from. After the heartache we turn to someone who appears to be everything and more. They are the rebel yells of the world and are better than the previous catch. Their different from anyone we’ve ever met and at first make us feel better but it changes. They are an uncontrollable species that weren’t trained properly at birth and must now face life in an undisciplined manner.

A girl’s desire for a bad-boy comes from deep within. We have this urge for them because we want to be the one to tame them, make them respect someone for once. It provides a sense of power and control which adds to the ego. Thus an explanation for why the attraction exists, but be warned you cannot change a man physically, only create an idea in your mind that he has changed. If they’re not right drop them quick before they can hurt you!